what's a hilux?! It was awkward because his house mate was a guy I knew from school and got on with well enough but not to the point we were good friends. Apparently her next door neighbours were very scared of her because she was reportedly quite aggressive at one point. Well put. Your "friends" need to wake up & start treating you with respect! wow. Regarding social events, I think it's sad when people invite themselves. Never really had this happen. Old friends, that's fine because I know them IRL and was stationed with them. What does invited themselves over expression mean? And no I don't, not really into that thing. She comes over just about every weekend and always brings booze. 1. Later on, when I heard another house maet get up, I wandered out and he and I started watching whatever crap was on the afternoon telly. people who just show up unannounced dont value your time. It's part of being a good neighbour IMO. She just wasn't all there. I already invited Kelly over for dinner tonightdo you want to come too? It went something like this Me: helloOne of them: hello we were wondering why are you watching out children play in the park.Me: i'm not watching themAnother one of them: it sure seems like you are staring at our children, are you some kind of pedophile?Me: oh god no, i'm just relaxing and eating my sandwichOne of the them: Why are you here everyday thenMe: Just to relax and think about the good times I had with my dog.One of them: Oh alright, we're sorry we just thought you were some kind of freak or somethingMe: yeah ok whatever, I was speaking in a pretty arrogant voice and they wear speaking in a bitchy kind of voice. Be firm and tell them this sort of thing is not on and in general take control of the situation. Was a great 6 weeks though. I think usually if I have my close friend do this I'd go out of the way to oblige.but generally no one comes un announced, unless you have given them that idea by doing something earlier in the friendship. 25 answers Earlier today my kids asked to have their friend over for a play date, and I told them no because I do not want company today. there are maybe 1 or 2 people who I don't mind turning up unannounced. Not even my family and best friends would do that. Seriously, has common sense been lost somewhere. tough life. It can even be annoying when a family member just 'drops in'..What's wrong with just using a phone (to check) before coming over. When we just got our coffee machine, they dropped by every week, 'Just a cup before we go shopping' to the point where I was running out of milk faster than cows could deliver it. I think I'd be pretty annoyed if people invited themselves over regularly. My other house mate laughed and gave me a high five, and when the girl got home later that day she'd already heard all about it from Mr Mopey, and thanked me for giving him a serve as she'd always felt really awkward trying to tell him he couldn't just turn up constantly. I had friends over almost everyday however. 2. I love my nephews, and they both know they could have the keys to the house if they asked, so no need to call before they and their parents come either. Luckily she doesn't mind it with a few of them as she's very good friends with their parents, but some are just terrible little grubs. AS A FIRST DATE! (45% off), Sale Price USD 3.59 Drip-Feed The Invite During The Date ("Breadcrumbing Technique") 5. USD 7.85, USD 8.73 Not only is it rude but it is also extremely annoying at times. One of the perks of living alone though is that I would feel free to ignore the door. They got the hint & started calling to check if it was ok before dropping in. Note: This feature currently requires accessing the site using the built-in Safari browser. Jan 23, 2010 #1 Can anyone think of a polite way to tell someone that you really would NOT like them to stay at your house? If I'm busy or I've got other plans then I just tell them that and get rid of them. I got 30 texts in two minutes from one of the girls in the OP, in the afternoon while I was asleep. I'm going to give you another alternative view point. there are maybe 1 or 2 people who I don't mind turning up unannounced. She would never ring prior. They'd regularly bring food, beer and other stuff. Out of curiosity, what don't you like about close friends dropping in unannounced? Another thing that annoys me is people who are invited over for dinner / a few drinks who then expect that they'll be able to crash at your place for the night. (40% off), Sale Price USD 5.99 Anyway as i type this thread about half an hour ago i was in bed (yes i know it's like 2pm, had a big night last night :P) and i heard the door bell go. Its hard to tell people when they are actually at your door to go away. OH JOY. We were walking nearby and we can't be bothered to walk so we he drive us? I've noticed recently how stupid they all are >_< Now I try to use the excuse "I'm doing an assignment and It's nearly due". How unbelievably rude! A few dates. If people show up to my door and I don't have the time, I let them know that it's inconvenient and come back on X, But that's very rarely, most mates and family usually call anywhere between 30 mins to 3 days in advance, sort of lol.. Notice how its almost always can they come over to "your" place. Just had this happen to me back in July-august lol. Once they came just as we were expecting our pizza deliveryand when it came, the wife had to tell them to go. I've never done this, and I don't understand why people do it. . Depends who it is, there's some where I don't mind it, neighbour that I like for example, really not rational for them to call first & I have other friends who if they're going past might drop in, but if i'm not home that's fine, wasn't out of their way & they weren't expecting I must be there & get the hint & leave if I look occupied & otherwise just fit in with what I'm doing, but there's others that I can't stand it from! OP, those girls dont really sound like good friends, I would put that relationship into the 'pending review' pile. Etsy is powered by 100% renewable electricity. I invited a friend over, and she then invited her partner (unfortunately she seems to be the sort who assumes an invite for her is an invite for both of them) which would have still been ok, except that for some reason her partner thought it would be awesome to invite four of his mates that I'd never met. Wait what..?They broke into your homeErr. It's not the end of the World. Turning off the personalized advertising setting wont stop you from seeing Etsy ads, but it may make the ads you see less relevant or more repetitive. Macedonia | English (US) | $ (USD), remembering account, browser, and regional preferences, remembering privacy and security settings, personalized search, content, and recommendations, helping sellers understand their audience, showing relevant, targeted ads on and off Etsy. ", So I walked out and she went all red and flustered lol dunno wtf she was up to, Lol, did you bring this up with your significant other?If so how did he react. I dislike it a lot. Being the pushover I am, I let him. I live near a beach and enjoy days just to myself for no other reason than it feels good for me. Total pushover. When i was a kid, my school mates would say they were coming over they would tell their mum and then wait for my mum to pick us up mum kept telling them that they need to ask her first. anway every 10 minutes he kept asking for food, it cost us over 100 bucks a week if he came over after school 3 nights every week.. His mum would pick him up around tea time and stick around watching us eat food, then she would ask 'do you have any to go around?' Just finished setting up the tent etc and sit down for a nice cold drink and who should rock on up out of the blue? Relay? I made a cup of tea and bumbled about before going back to lie down. For this, you must act cool and stay calm. From then all he texted me before walking out his door. (40% off), Sale Price USD 3.81 Rehoming roosters - Conflicted - needing input please. To be honest, sometimes it can be a PITA, but I have to remind myself true mates are few and far between. Reaction score. Or shows up here to wait for people getting off the train at the nearby station. Luckily this hasn't come up for me yet. How unbelievably rude! If you're not from a culture like that you may not understand. Even got scolded at by the parents for being rude in denying. so i think it is a cultural thing, if you were brought up in that kind of environment that would be how you normally interact with people. If he mentions liking dogs or cats, that could be your moment. Not only is it rude but it is also extremely annoying at times. Do not let your guard down just because . Scenario 1:"hey man, wanna hang out?" It's just the ones that come far too often. congratulation, they chose you as their fool of the day why? You will find that most people like this lack any sort of boundary as well as a heightened sense of entitlement. The only exception is my parents who live nearby and we pretty much have a mutual open invitation to drop over whenever (but even then I usually call before going over). 55. They sometimes call, they mostly don't, either way, I never expect them to call. Its one think to say 'like this' and 'like that' but another to write it. I was home by myself and his mum turned up. I'd rather live in a house that has too much love than too little or none at all. Just stop telling friends where you live haha. Please. To visit the place where one lives despite not having been invited. As for my refusing to be upfront with him about being irritated, that wasn't my intention at all. He also kinda "acts" young, he kind of gets my generation, he's not arrogant :P. Anyway it's annoying because my friends treat him like a friend. Anyway was pretty down, so I said to one of the friends who was in the original post, and told her how I had a bad day. (usually I do spend a bit of time with her). The Passive Aggressor. Of course if you drop in, you have to expect that if it isn't convenient, you'll be asked to bugger off. He much like me likes to spend his time on the computer programming lol. Still no excuse. Same story when livign at home, my folks have a lot of older freinds who just drop in whevener. Had a few parents come up to me thinking I wanted their children rofl. You are using an out of date browser. I used to have a friend that would rock up randomly ask if I wanted to hang out, even if he knew that I have an assessment due the next day!! Let's invite Tony and Nick over for dinner. (40% off), Sale Price USD 4.56 Claymores are great for this sort of thing Good advice arlee453. Rooster being a jerk.. spring or aggressive? A good friend of mine decided to drop in on his way back from something . at 8am on a Saturday waking me up tapping on my window. And that's perfectly fine. Even in high school I left my bag somewhere for a whole day. Captcha failed to load. I'm in my forties now I still miss her & I wish more than anything that she was still here making me my favorite roast potatoes, roast pumpkin and cooking me her sponge cake for Saturday mornings. Usually hang out for half an hour before they leave. Ended up in a massive fight because they thought I was just annoyed at the workload (when infact we get barely anything). It's annoying when all my drinks and snacks and crap are gone after they leave. I don't like it! Regarding social events, I think it's sad when people invite themselves. Most others can eff off tho..Same here! Went out camping just this weekend gone 50km or so out of town lovely quiet spot with no one else around. One statement rung hard through his mind though. OK, so. So what happens is my house becomes the "hangout house" often they'll just be hanging out in my living room while I'm in my office working. It's not a matter of money, it's more of a issue of convenience, I have to go and buy them again etc. Also my house is very relaxed and I only live with my dad, we keep a fairly clean house and my dad doesn't bother anyone ever. Just say 'No'. This information should not be considered complete, up to date, and is not intended to be used in place of a visit, consultation, or advice of a legal, medical, or any other professional. I don't mind drop ins so long as they do the whole 'hey, I'm near your house, are you around?' Yes, so give her a big hug and say gran thanks so much for coming around to help me. Mummy n daddy.. "OH HAI! We were walking nearby and we can't be bothered to walk so we he drive us? It's quite annoying. If you're starting year 12 next year, beginning of this year was the time to move, would be too disruptive to do it now. This has happened to me a couple times lately. Not inviting themselves over but I've got a colleague at work who is insistant on me driving him home. once our neighbour from across the driveway (we live in a villa complex) had to come and knock on our door to tell us (them rather) to keep quiet. Only going to it when I needed to. Part of the reason could of been that I had 5 giant textbooks in my bag =/. Brothers and sisters fall in the same category above however we're closer to one set than the other (no reason, just the way it is).
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